Girls Night Out

Is it really a case of ‘no boys’ though?

It’s a Friday night and you realise you haven’t seen some of your girl-friends in a while for whatever reason. A few messages/calls later, you all decide to have a girl’s night out. That is, you, your girls, alcohol and most importantly, no men?

On a girls night out this is how I expect it to typically play out; A few girls heading to town.  We get dressed, looking fly isn't an option. We maybe grab dinner first in a nice restaurant then head to the hottest club where there’s a table or space reserved.  We order drinks, We dance, We go home. 

See how there’s no mention of the men-folk playing a role in this outing.

If you’re a group of pretty girls, dressed up, in a club dancing and buying your own drinks; you will get attention but it doesn’t mean you are there looking for company or someone to subsidize the night. If at all a man does approach anyone in the group then all it should take is a polite ‘I’m not interested’ for them to leave you alone. Needless to say, this doesn’t always work.

I’m from the school of thought where I wouldn’t take a guy I met in the club seriously anyway (topic for another day) however I’m sure there might be one or two in the group of girls who might want to really go all out that night i.e find their future husbands or maybe just a willing guy to get it ‘jumping jumping’ style a la Destiny’s Child.   This happens I’m sure, in fact that might be the reason for that entire group going out!  To this I say 'to each their own' and for the guys who are clued up to this type of girl/group, good for them, however do note there will be a group of girls who maybe have men at home, kids even or even none of those and simply want to dance and drink with their girls. One rule does not apply to all.

People go clubbing for different reasons. Some just go to dance and enjoy the atmosphere. Some go to drink and enjoy the atmosphere. Some go to hook up with another.  Or they want to wear that bodycon dress and show of the 10pounds they’ve lost.  Each of these individuals whatever their reason for going out have every right to it. Each choice made at the person’s discretion is mutually exclusive to the other. This needs to be respected. So not because you want to dance means you must drink. Not because you want to drink must you dance.... see where I'm going with this?!

Basically what I’m trying to say is when a lady says ‘I’m not interested’ leave her the f alone. 

It isn’t a statement to test your persistence. You will only get her irritated and might get yourself insulted and why ruin a good night because your understanding of English is limited.

On the flip ladies, when you go clubbing with the girls on a tagged Girls Night Out, are you hoping to meet someone and eventually leave the group you came with? 

Confess your scandalous selves!